Friday, January 25, 2013

@ 1/4000th of a second

Today I put my camera to some creative use. My camera's shutter can open and close in 0.00025s. That is 1/4000th of a second. Even better pro cameras can do this at 1/8000s or even upto an incredible 1/16000th of a second. 














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Thursday, January 24, 2013

Doctor, I just wanted to say Thank You

I was suffering torture at the Emergency Medical Department, JIPMER on that not-so-fine mid-weekday morning. I had a feeling that I had been prematurely thrown into hell . I was the doctor on duty at the OG casualty for that day. I don't know about the conditions now but in my days, the OG casualty was grossly understaffed with medicos who had less experience. Let me refrain from boasting about how much of emergency care I knew in Obstetrics, but with all the insight and discernment I had, I worked my best for better patient care. I realized that it wasn't a good day for me when I noticed the absence of the nurse who was supposed to assist me in the casualty. With only one DRL lady, who after much pleading, consented to be a chaperon while I examined female patients, I literally 'manned' the OG casualty all alone. And to add to my misery, on this particular day there was a larger than usual crowd of pregnant mothers waiting in labour distress.

It was such a sweltering day and as I kept examining patient after patient with little time to rest in between, I was drowning in my own sweat. Some of the patients whom I examined were acutely sick and needed immediate intervention. So I was kept running from the casualty to the labour room most of the time. The physical exhaustion, the overwhelming workload and the patients' demand for attention surfaced the irate behavior in me at times.

It was at that time when a short lady dressed in blue saree came to me with two of her attenders. She was just 4 months pregnant and had no emergencies. She had come for a regular check up but mistakenly landed in the casualty instead of the OPD. Immediately after seeing her case sheet, I asked her to visit the OPD. But, without realizing that she was wasting my time, she kept on insisting me to examine her. She did not understand the concept of emergency care. And she was simply killing my time, my patience and my energy.
I was getting so mad at her on the inside, but I did not shout at her. I realized that if I became angry I will end up spoiling both my day and her's. So I spoke as kind as possible. I explained briefly yet good enough to enlighten her. And she left.

I felt relieved only for an instance to go back to my demanding job.

After 2 long hours (which felt like 10 loooooong hours), I was squeezed off of all my energy. I took a brief moment to pause and rest while I saw a lady clad in blue saree coming towards me. It was the same who kept bothering me that morning. When she came close, I ask her, "Why have you come here again?" with mild anger in my voice and extreme madness at her on the inside.

She walked an extra 1 km almost (from OPD to casualty, and from casualty to the bus stop) to see me before she boarded her bus. 

She smiled and said, "I got myself checked at the OPD."

So what else do you want from me, I was fuming.

"I wanted to thank you, doctor."

Friday, January 11, 2013

Your spouse's smile is your priority !

I am supposedly in the marriageable age and many of my friends are getting engaged/married. Well, here is a post that address all such married or to-be-married people.

It's perfectly OK to expect many things out of your marriage to your spouse. You get a hand to hold on when you're weak or cold or lonely perhaps, you get a shoulder to lean on, you get laps to lie on and so on...
A relationship is not a gold mine from which you can keep extracting good things out. It would eventually run dry until you keep adding something to it.

So what is that you should give? What is the priority need?

Your partner's smile is your priority. Give anything or everything to keep happiness glowing on your spouse's face.

Let me explain how this would ensure internal stability to this system !

Situation 1:
Ben and Bella are married. (Names are randomly chosen by chance. Any references to real persons are purely unintentional and coincidental !!). Ben gets fired by his boss. He comes home furious. He vents out his frustration at home. Bella gets offended. She screams at the top of her voice. And that's like a match stick thrown on a dry forest. A forest fire ensures!

Situation 2:
Ben and Bella. Ben gets fired by his boss again. (Poor Ben :-p ). He comes home furious. He vents out his frustration at home. Bella gets offended. But her priority is her spouse's smile. She remains cool. She pacifies him. She encourages him. She makes him feel better. Ben feels good. He smiles... And then... :-)

Well, real life situations may be tougher than this. But is never impossible. 
COMMITMENT is all it takes.